Azhar & Sharina

Dear azhar,

Thank you for your patience & love (:

Long time no post

1. I came back from Thailand for training, and I learnt something really beneficial that has remained firmly etched in my brain.
2. Exercise Thailand has made me self reflect on my limitations and deficiencies that I will need to constantly improve on.
3. I will try to make it brief, and let you digest them yourself.

Lessons

Communication

We don’t care if you are a PHD Graduate or a PSLE holder, if you need to get messages across, make sure you are able to do that properly. If one party is able to get the message across to another, but the other party does not understand, that means there is no communication. I can say “I love you” to my mom with my gentlest of voice, but if my mom does not get it, does that mean she is the wrong for not getting it? Does that mean communication exist? The answer is no for both.

Happiness

If you want to be happy, make sure you get along with others well. The amount of happiness is directly proportionate with the interaction you have with the other parties. Try it out if you don’t believe.

Be Yourself

I was segmented with the Malay Drivers in my bunk. The way they talk sometimes I do not understand as they have tons of Malay Slangs and loads of crappy words underneath their conversations. You do need to act like them to be with them. My entire stay there, I was quiet, being my normal self. It did not matter to me. In the end, they got me into their group and before we knew it, we talked bullshits. People can see if you are acting or being yourself. People prefer the latter. I have this guy who tried to be cool, but gets chased away by them.

Have good perception of others

Everybody is good, no matter how bad they seem to be. If you think good things of others, others will do good to you and vice versa. 

Yes, some might be unconvinced, but that is up to your preference. For me, I have been there, done that, and I will never forget the lessons I learn.

There are many more, but my slow brains cannot process them for now.

19 June 2010 - Yes I CAN!

I have this tremendous urge to get things done and at work as well. I work for my company and I am dedicated to completing my tasks and providing value to it for as long as I stay.

Once I leave the place, the next target is my next employer and I will do my damn best to ensure everything runs smoothly. 

Having said that, I am one that will do my very best in everything that I set myself in. My relationship with everyone, GF, parents etc so on and so forth.

When I was young, I expected to receive what I have given to others, and most of the time, I would not get it. For example, being damn nice to others, but in the end, the other party might not be too nice to me. So it brought me to disappointment and all those things. Frankly speaking, I believe many of us have such characteristics.

As I got matured and more experienced in life, albeit only 25 years of experience, is that MOST of the time, if we do our best for others, others will do the same for us. Maybe not all, but most of them. The feeling of doing your very best and the process of learning what pleases or eases others are some of the things we all can learn through the experience.

So the important thing here is, do your best for others, and never expect a single thing from them, and you find your self esteem soar so high, that you feel passionate about your work, about your relationship, so on and so forth.

Yours Truly,

A

Hey u!

Oh well, half of my life is spent at work and the other at the library even though I work at home. Doesnt seem like a home as I see it as an office. Life is great actually.

Being an introvert, I really enjoy being alone. I thank God for all the pleasures I was given and seeing many people in other parts of the country and even in Singapore suffer much worst than me, what else can I ask for right? I am filled with gratitude for what I have in life.

Even so, I am constantly pushing hard and trying my damn best to achieve what I have in mind, and it is slowly paying dividends. I already have a great girlfriend, one who is Loving, Faithful, Commited and best of all, my mom loves her loads like her daughter. I wonder why, but I just leave it as it is. That is nature taking its course and I shant dwell into it that much.

Others may have a different perception about her or whatnots, but to me, the most important thing is what I think about her, and they are largely positive. I appreciate what she has done for me, the stuff she buys for me, and the certainty that she will be with me no matter what I am going through. Ups and downs, she will still be by my side. Thats LFC for you, not Liverpool Football Club, but Loving,Faithful and Committed.

Being introverted, it takes time to warm up to people, and even so, it is hard to have comfortable relationships with people, and lucky for me, I am able to be so with her. My friends whom I am comfortable with, are fortunately my close buddies and ones whom I can rely and trust with.

As I grow up, my loner tendencies started to fade. I began to realise the importance of gelling around with others and network. I am grateful for all the chances and opportunities to grow and improve myself.

From the presence of a girlfriend, to my present job, to my promotion so on and so forth. Ultimately it is the sense of gratitude that matters most. Without it, it will be a constant battle with your mind and a deep sense of unease follows……………